They look just like everybody else.
It’s not an easy thing to keep in your head. Disney movies have taught us that villains look like villains.* But in real life, they look like everybody else. — Invasion Of The Bodysnatchers |
For readers interested in learning more about how not to be labeled as registered sex offenders, a good first step is not to rape unconscious women, no matter how good your grades are. Regardless of the strength of your GPA (weighted or unweighted), if you commit rape, there is a possibility you may someday be convicted of a sex crime. This is because of your decision to commit a sex crime instead of going for a walk, or reading a book by Cormac McCarthy. Your ability to perform calculus or play football is generally not taken into consideration in a court of law. Should you prefer to be known as “Good student and excellent football player Trent Mays” rather than “Convicted sex offender Trent Mays,” try stressing the studying and tackling and giving the sex crimes a miss altogether. — “CNN reports on the ‘promising future’ of the Steubenville rapists, who are ‘very good students’ “, by Mallory Ortberg, Gawker (via realfandomness)
Open Scheduled Chat
Topic: How to move on after abuse
When: Mon, Wed, Fri, May 13, 15, 17 2013 9PM ET + 1AM ET
Where: Chat Room 2
“I am asking for a night of sleep where I don’t wake up crying over what he did.”
I think understanding of sexual consent—what it is, why it matters—is sorely lacking in society and crucially important.
These two really, really need to go together. If abstinence-only sex ed is like driver’s ed without talking about cars, then sex ed without talking about consent is like driver’s ed where they show you the gas and the brake, but assume you’ll pick up all the “how to follow traffic laws so you don’t kill people” bits on your own. — Yes, yes, yes, a thowsund teims YESSSSS. Cliff over at The Pervocracy nails it again. (via evaporites)
If you assume that ambiguity means no, the worst that can happen is that you miss out on having sex with someone who’s up for having sex with you, but who for some reason can’t or won’t tell you what she really wants. A missed chance to have sex is not the end of the world. If, by contrast, you assume that ambiguity means yes, the worst that can happen is that you rape someone. Err on the side of caution. Don’t err on the side of rape. — NEWS FLASH: Women aren’t the mysterious creatures that Nice Guys ™ — and predators— like to pretend that they are by David Futrelle (via ninja-suffragette)
Consent is never implied.
“I am asking for you to respect me like I respect you.”