What I learned from all of this is that there is no single definition of sexual violence. “Rape is rape.” It just is. Any sexual act you feel is in violation of your personal safety, your rights, and your own body is unacceptable. It doesn’t matter if you’re drunk. It doesn’t even matter if you’re naked and about to have sex and change your mind. It doesn’t matter if the perpetrator “didn’t mean” to hurt you. You did not ask for this to happen to you, and you did not want it to happen to you, but it did. Don’t be afraid to acknowledge it.