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fromonesurvivortoanother:

colinthecomiccunt:

kajiraraven:

mentorsinviolencepreventionucf:

Know the warning signs. Don’t wait until it’s too late.

This is very important. Please read this. Often women in abusive relationships do not have the means to escape, it isn’t their fault. Others can help be recognizing domestic violence and helping put a stop to it. 

I will never not reblog this. You are strong enough to leave a relationship. Don’t ever forget that. 

(general trigger warning)

(via survivorsupport)

klausdiemaus:

goldenphoenixgirl:
EVERYONE needs to know this. This is how nearly all abusive relationships play out, nearly all of the time. It’s very, very common and very important. 
Bear in mind that “violent outbursts” can also mean mental/verbal abuse, shoving or holding someone down, throwing things at the person or threats.
Usually, this cycle worsens and worsens throughout the relationship. The violent episodes last longer and longer and the honeymoon phase gets shorter or may disappear completely, leaving the relationship bouncing back and forth between tension and explosions. 
Please reblog if you think your readers could be helped by this?


Essential information.  Here’s my video explaining this and more about relationship violence.  It’s called “When Love Gets Violent”.  TW for a very intense 911 call at the beginning.



We reblog the cycle of violence a lot, but that’s because it’s a very helpful tool in understanding abusive relationships. The linked video is also great but the 911 call at the beginning could be very triggering, it ends at :23 if you want to skip it.

klausdiemaus:

goldenphoenixgirl:

EVERYONE needs to know this. This is how nearly all abusive relationships play out, nearly all of the time. It’s very, very common and very important. 

Bear in mind that “violent outbursts” can also mean mental/verbal abuse, shoving or holding someone down, throwing things at the person or threats.

Usually, this cycle worsens and worsens throughout the relationship. The violent episodes last longer and longer and the honeymoon phase gets shorter or may disappear completely, leaving the relationship bouncing back and forth between tension and explosions. 

Please reblog if you think your readers could be helped by this?

Essential information.  Here’s my video explaining this and more about relationship violence.  It’s called “When Love Gets Violent”.  TW for a very intense 911 call at the beginning.

We reblog the cycle of violence a lot, but that’s because it’s a very helpful tool in understanding abusive relationships. The linked video is also great but the 911 call at the beginning could be very triggering, it ends at :23 if you want to skip it.

(Source: goldenphoenixgirl, via rapeculturerealities)

// Weakening Violence Against Women Act betrays immigrant victims//

All women who have lived through violence and abuse should have the certainty that the law will protect them — no matter their race, creed, color, religion or immigration status. Unfortunately, Congress is now considering proposals that would erode this certainty — and its failure to act is already causing harm.

We urge congressional leaders to move forward now to reauthorize the Violence Against Women Act, without provisions harmful to immigrants.

As long-time law enforcement leaders, we know this act is crucial. Since passage in 1994, it has helped cut domestic violence by more than half. Still, the scourge of domestic violence remains a serious problem: One in four women experiences an act of domestic violence or sexual assault in her lifetime, and three women die every day at the hands of abusive husbands or partners.

Rates of trafficking women — often from one abusive context to another — are also alarmingly high. Roughly 100,000 survivors of human trafficking live in the United States today, according to the State Department, whose estimates suggest as many as 17,500 foreign-born victims are illegally brought in each year.

(Via Politico)

This is an important read!

From the article “For many of these women, immigration status is one more weapon that abusers use to intimidate them. Abusers often threaten, “You can’t call the police. They’ll just deport you.”

It is imperative that we protect EVERY individual experiencing violence, VAWA saves lives. It can and will save MORE lives if it isn’t watered down and made to exclude immigrant women.

// [TRIGGER WARNING: DOMESTIC ABUSE]//

aboutmaleprivilege:

Your coworker is full of the shit of bulls. Men who abuse joke about abuse all the time. The point of abuse is that it is not seen as “abuse” by the abuser. The abuser often plays the victim and convinces onlookers and even the abused person(s) that they are the one at fault, the one “driving [the abuser] to [abuse]” etc. etc.

This is why a joke can be very telling. If someone is willing to joke about abuse, casually even, clearly they don’t think it’s a big deal. This is why abuse goes unreported. This is why toxic situations are so hard to escape from for so many.

This is why the victim is blamed.

(Source: all-about-male-privilege, via rapeculturerealities)

You may scoff at my confession, but I believe vulnerable women often choose men who make them even more vulnerable. These women can come from any background and can feel utterly worthless regardless of intelligence, status or wealth.

Ending a relationship with anyone — even a man who has hurt you over and over again — can require a will of iron, particularly if you fell in love with the ‘good’ side of him.

‘Ending a destructive relationship can be a difficult and painful process,’ agrees psychologist Clare Meads. ‘People are neither all good or all bad and after you have invested energy and emotion into a relationship it can be difficult to let it go.

Don’t judge Rihanna. I know how hard it is to break free from a violent lover | Mail Online

An interesting article on one woman’s experiences of domestic violence, and a reminder that abuse victim’s may have a multitude of reasons for not immediately leaving their abusers- and we should support rather than judge them. Trigger Warning for descriptions of abuse in the article.

Safety planning for someone involved in an abusive relationship is a necessary and important step. Planning can be used while you are still with your abuser or after the relationship has ended. While still in an abusive relationship, your safety is of primary importance.

// Take Part in the National Day of Action for VAWA//

Urge congress to pass VAWA before their July 4th Vacation. Here are come ways you can help (via nnedv.org)

Call:

  • Call your Senators and Representatives and insist that they pass VAWA as a matter of urgent priority.
  • When you call, tell your Members of Congress: “I urge you to pass a strong, bipartisan VAWA reauthorization bill that safely and effectively protects ALL victims of violence - NOW.  VAWA has positively impacted me/my community in the following way [insert personal story].  By reauthorizing a strong VAWA reauthorization bill that protects all victims of violence, VAWA programs and services can continue to serve victims and make our communities safer.
  • Visit NNEDV’s Legislative Action Center to take action and provide us with feedback about your calls.

Tweet:

  • Follow NNEDV on Twitter and use these hashtags: #ReauthorizeVAWA and #VAWA
  • Tell Congress to #ReauthorizeVAWA before the 7/4 vacation
  • Join National Day of #Action4VAWA!  Call your Congress member @ 202-224-3121 today!
  • [Insert your Congress person’s Twitter handle] #ReauthorizeVAWA for ALL survivors!  Stand up to take #Action4VAWA!

Facebook:

Action in DC:

  • If you are in Washington, DC, join us for a national rally on June 26th on Capitol Hill.  Advocates will gather at the U.S. Capitol to directly call upon Congress to reauthorize VAWA now.

Date: Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Time: 11:30 AM - 1:30 PM
Location: U.S. Capitol, Area 9, enter site at the intersection of 1st Street and Constitution Avenue
Register to attend

paulbaribeau:

From the book Creating an Abuse Free Relationship by Carolyn S. McGinnis, Ph. D.
It is really important to understand the amount of control that abusive people have. I’ve heard my friends, sadly, talk about needing more “proof” that abuse is happening. They say they would need to see it to believe it. Well, you probably won’t see it. Abusers I have met are smart enough not to physically attack their victims. Instead, they attack with words. They are smart enough to stop when someone says “no” to sex. Instead, they make the victim feel that they don’t have the option to say no. 
If your friend reaches out to you for help, trust them and try to help them. Don’t say that you will need to see more abuse happen. Do what you can to make abuse stop.

paulbaribeau:

From the book Creating an Abuse Free Relationship by Carolyn S. McGinnis, Ph. D.

It is really important to understand the amount of control that abusive people have. I’ve heard my friends, sadly, talk about needing more “proof” that abuse is happening. They say they would need to see it to believe it. Well, you probably won’t see it. Abusers I have met are smart enough not to physically attack their victims. Instead, they attack with words. They are smart enough to stop when someone says “no” to sex. Instead, they make the victim feel that they don’t have the option to say no. 

If your friend reaches out to you for help, trust them and try to help them. Don’t say that you will need to see more abuse happen. Do what you can to make abuse stop.

(via cunningcunt)

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